Friday, September 28, 2012

Another Marriage Post.

So...I'm getting married and I'm 20 years old. It's crazy. I know I'm way too young but it's just right, I can't help it. My mom actually asked me last week if I was having cold feet and at the time I was like, "YES"! I Literally had two panic attacks that week because I was really scared! It's not that I had doubts about Kyle, it's just that I was so freaked out by the fact that I am getting married. Luckily Kyle is so amazing and we talked about it and he calmed me down. I would honestly give more details of why I was freaking out but I don't even remember anymore. That's how emotional I was being. If you are getting married and freak out a little bit it's totally normal! Marriage is something that shouldn't be taken lightly and you should be concerned when making a huge such as marriage.

I am so excited to marry Kyle! I seriously can't tell you how much our relationship has matured since we first started dating. The first year of our relationship was sunshine and rainbows. We never fought (we still technically don't fight), were super kissy kissy, and yeah pretty much nothing ever went wrong for us. We both had jobs, were making straight A's, and had tons of friends. Then we moved to Provo....and our relationship took a 180. All these outside factors such as school, being jobless, and having no friends put tons of stress on our relationship. I know that sounds ridiculous but it did. During this "Provo" phase, we finally saw each other at our worst. After many late night talks we finally were able patch things up. As much as I cringe at the thought of our "Provo" phase, it made our relationship so much stronger. It made us realize how much we appreciate each other and that we can get through anything if we just work together.

Now we're in our "Hawaii" phase and it's been so much better! We still have had a lot of adjusting to do as our relationship is still maturing. It's crazy how much your life changes when you add someone else into the picture. It was hard enough just to worry about myself, then as Kyle and I became more serious, we had to make decisions together. It gave our relationship a whole new meaning. For example, we have become so much more financially involved with each other and I LOVE IT. As dorky as it sounds I can't wait til Kyle and I merge our bank accounts. I think it's just because I can't wait to make financial (and other) decisions with Kyle because we work so well together. I really love that we will be able to share responsibility for each other and later our family.

I am so blessed I have found someone so perfect for me who's going to be an amazing husband. I am so excited for our journey through life together. We will grow, learn, and accomplish goals together. We get to bring out the best in each other and see each other become successful people. Ahhh November 23, 2012 please come sooner! :)

If this isn't love, I don't know what is.


2 comments:

  1. I didn't realize how young I was when I got married until a few months ago. Mormons treat it like it's no big deal to get married young because of the way our culture is. But in reality, it is a big deal. Your life changes SO much between the ages of 18-25...you have no idea who you really are. Those years are so critical in shaping you. I know I made the right decision in WHO I married but I also know that if I wasn't Mormon, we would have waited much longer just because I would have had a different outlook. My life also took major unexpected turns when I got married so I think it wasn't that I wasn't ready to get married. I just wasn't ready to sacrifice everything I had to give up when I got married...mainly leaving a place I loved and moving to a place I hate.

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  2. Yeah I hate how the Mormon culture puts so much pressure on its singles to get married. The reason Kyle and I are getting married so young is cause after you have been dating for a while you are ready to take the next step (i.e., living together, becoming more intimate, etc...) and unfortunately in the Mormon society and going to a Mormon school, you have to be married to take those next steps. If we weren't Mormon, we would've moved in together and have gotten married after we graduated. My mom has a lot of non-member clients who think I'm way too young to be getting married and just don't understand this but I don't expect them to.

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