I think one of the reasons marriage changes everything is that it changes your mentality. Kyle and I love each other so much but just because we are married I think it's easier for us to take each other for granted. There are many other factors as well but I can't put my finger on them.
These last six months of marriage have been like a roller coaster ride. We have gone through so many rough patches but luckily I can say we have recovered and our relationship is so much better than it was in jan/feb. I think we are continuing to learn and just getting better at being married.
I don't mean to sound so negative but I just hate it when people(mostly Mormons) make their marriage sound like it's perfect. It's not! We all have issues so don't hide them.
I guess my advice is to just know that marriage is going to be hard. You can make any marriage work if you're willing to put in 110% and make a hell of a lot of sacrifices.
I am so happy that I am married to my best friend at such a young age. I never thought I would get married ever, but I'm so glad Kyle decided to put up with me. We are just two crazies that fell in love.
I think social media is really hard on us, everyone writes with rose colored glasses! We never see the hard times or trials that other people go through and it makes us feel like we are the only ones that are struggling. Being married young is NOT easy. Not only do you have to deal with your life changing so drastically, you have to make a huge amount of personal sacrifices as well. And those are the situations that aren't normally displayed all over facebook, blogs, and instagram. Marrying Brandon WHEN I did wasn't a perfect situation, it was extremely hard to be in a new place with him traveling so much and me being alone a lot, not knowing what I was doing with school, no job, ect. I would never want my daughter to go through that but I made it through and things worked out. I guess we just have to push through and have faith that things will work out for the best because they normally always do and sometimes it just takes a while to realize that :)
ReplyDeleteOh Gwyenne! I love you! This is so so great. You two are the sweetest!
ReplyDeleteYa the first year, especially when you have not lived together, is pretty hard. Just getting used to each other!! lol I remember Sean used to stay up really late playing video games and I had NO idea he did that when we were dating. I would get so mad when I would have to go to bed alone... I mean come on, we were married!! I should have a sleeping buddy right? lol Well I did talk to him and he cut down his playing time but he still does it. I just think of it as if playing video games is the worst thing about him... then I should be okay lol
ReplyDeletehahaha omg julia that is sooo funny!!!
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